After a year of planning and executing the various stages of implementation… . we finally reach the climax. I could say it was a success. The whole majlis perkahwinan at our humble home went on smoothly… except for some problem at the PLUS highway, causing our guests to be slightly late. As I said during the wedding speech, it have being a unique, interesting, exciting and tiring experience. Zan take care of putting everything in place while I take care of the design and financial aspect.
Involving logistic such as location, programme, invitation card, theme, dress, tents, tables chairs, foods, songs, sound system, master of ceremony, presentation, photography, videography, stage décor, room décor, gifts, parking, accommodation, distribution of duties, duty list, guest lists….. on and on.
Guests include siblings, relatives, friends, school mates, college mates, university mates, colleagues, neighbors and … new family members, that is the in-laws. It was sort of a reunion for us all.
After the dust has settle down it was satisfying to look back at all the decisions made - rightly or wrongly. How things turn out. Strengths and weaknesses, lessons learn, money spend….
As parents what matter most is the blessing of the couple as husband and wife and we pray for their everlasting happiness in their journey through life … always and forever together.
Now moving on to the next - MAJLIS.
Majlis Pernikahan
Approval of Parents from both side formalised on the 3rd May 2009. JPA approved on the 13th June 2009 and finally approval from Religious Department on th18th June 2009.
So, once Zan and Syaza come back from performing the Umrah, we will start the planning stage all over again….
HADITH
Sebenarnya apakah ucapan yang paling baik untuk mempelai-mempelai yang baru mendirikan rumahtangga? Di dalam sebuah hadith, telah diriwayatkan bahawa Aqil Ibnu Ali Abi Talib r.a. telah menikahi seorang wanita dari kalangan Bani Jusham. Lalu orang ramai datang dan berkata, “Semoga berbahagia dan ramai anak.” Mendengar yang demikian Aqil berkata, “Janganlah kamu mengatakan demikian, kerana sesungguhnya Rasulullah s.a.w. telah melarang yang demikian.”
Mereka lalu bertanya, “Jika demikian, apakah yang patut kami katakan wahai Abu Yazid?”
Aqil menjawab, “Katakan (Semoga Allah memberkati kamu dan melimpahkan berkat kepada kamu). Begitulah yang diperintahkan kepada kita”.[1] Di dalam sebuah hadith riwayat Imam Bukhari, diceritakan Rasullulah s.a.w. ternampak kesan Sufrah (sejenis wangian berwarna kuning) di baju Abdul Rahman Bin Auf r.a. lalu beliau bertanya, “Apakah ini?” Abdul Rahman r.a. menjawab, “saya telah mengahwini seorang wanita dan telah membayar mas kahwin seberat sebiji kurma.” Rasulullah s.a.w. bersabda, “ (semoga kamu diberkati). Adakan walimah walaupun dengan seekor kibash”[2] Menurut Abu Hurairah r.a. apabila mendoakan seseorang yang baru berkahwin, Rasulullah s.a.w. akan berkata,
“(Semoga Allah memberkati kamu dan melimpahkan berkat kepada kamu dan menghimpunkan kedua kamu di dalam kebaikkan.)”
[3] Menurut Imam Nawawi di dalam Al-Azkar adalah disunatkan kita mengucapkan seperti ucapan-ucapan Rasulullah s.a.w. di atas. Menurut beliau lagi, adalah makruh kita mengucapkan “Semoga berbahagia dan banyak anak.”[4] Mana tidaknya, kehidupan pasangan yang diberkatiNya sudah tentu gembira dan bahagia. Sedangkan kehidupan pasangan yang gembira dan bahagia, belum tentu mendapat keberkatanNya.
