ONEdownONEtogo@WEDDING2009

After a year of planning and executing the various stages of implementation… . we finally reach the climax. I could say it was a success. The whole majlis perkahwinan at our humble home went on smoothly… except for some problem at the PLUS highway, causing our guests to be slightly late. As I said during the wedding speech, it have being a unique, interesting, exciting and tiring experience. Zan take care of putting everything in place while I take care of the design and financial aspect.

Involving logistic such as location, programme, invitation card, theme, dress, tents, tables chairs, foods, songs, sound system, master of ceremony, presentation, photography, videography, stage décor, room décor, gifts, parking, accommodation, distribution of duties, duty list, guest lists….. on and on.

Guests include siblings, relatives, friends, school mates, college mates, university mates, colleagues, neighbors and … new family members, that is the in-laws. It was sort of a reunion for us all.

After the dust has settle down it was satisfying to look back at all the decisions made - rightly or wrongly. How things turn out. Strengths and weaknesses, lessons learn, money spend….

As parents what matter most is the blessing of the couple as husband and wife and we pray for their everlasting happiness in their journey through life … always and forever together.

Now moving on to the next - MAJLIS.

Majlis Pernikahan Syaza & Rassyid on the 19 July 2009 insyaAllah

Approval of Parents from both side formalised on the 3rd May 2009. JPA approved on the 13th June 2009 and finally approval from Religious Department on th18th June 2009.

So, once Zan and Syaza come back from performing the Umrah, we will start the planning stage all over again….

HADITH

Sebenarnya apakah ucapan yang paling baik untuk mempelai-mempelai yang baru mendirikan rumahtangga? Di dalam sebuah hadith, telah diriwayatkan bahawa Aqil Ibnu Ali Abi Talib r.a. telah menikahi seorang wanita dari kalangan Bani Jusham. Lalu orang ramai datang dan berkata, “Semoga berbahagia dan ramai anak.” Mendengar yang demikian Aqil berkata, “Janganlah kamu mengatakan demikian, kerana sesungguhnya Rasulullah s.a.w. telah melarang yang demikian.”

Mereka lalu bertanya, “Jika demikian, apakah yang patut kami katakan wahai Abu Yazid?”

Aqil menjawab, “Katakan (Semoga Allah memberkati kamu dan melimpahkan berkat kepada kamu). Begitulah yang diperintahkan kepada kita”.[1] Di dalam sebuah hadith riwayat Imam Bukhari, diceritakan Rasullulah s.a.w. ternampak kesan Sufrah (sejenis wangian berwarna kuning) di baju Abdul Rahman Bin Auf r.a. lalu beliau bertanya, “Apakah ini?” Abdul Rahman r.a. menjawab, “saya telah mengahwini seorang wanita dan telah membayar mas kahwin seberat sebiji kurma.” Rasulullah s.a.w. bersabda, “ (semoga kamu diberkati). Adakan walimah walaupun dengan seekor kibash”[2] Menurut Abu Hurairah r.a. apabila mendoakan seseorang yang baru berkahwin, Rasulullah s.a.w. akan berkata,

“(Semoga Allah memberkati kamu dan melimpahkan berkat kepada kamu dan menghimpunkan kedua kamu di dalam kebaikkan.)”

[3] Menurut Imam Nawawi di dalam Al-Azkar adalah disunatkan kita mengucapkan seperti ucapan-ucapan Rasulullah s.a.w. di atas. Menurut beliau lagi, adalah makruh kita mengucapkan “Semoga berbahagia dan banyak anak.”[4] Mana tidaknya, kehidupan pasangan yang diberkatiNya sudah tentu gembira dan bahagia. Sedangkan kehidupan pasangan yang gembira dan bahagia, belum tentu mendapat keberkatanNya.

ComingSoon@NilaiImpian

Starting@Motorcycling

After all this years, I still get questions on riding bike… use to be from the interested rider himself. Now it’s from the parents. Concern fathers and mothers. When their teenage kids asked for a bike, they will think of me and surely ask “is it safe?” My answer is “just like any other mode of transportation….” Learn basic riding theory; understand basic mechanical functions; sharpen your skill; ride within limit (ability); focus and also assume a worse case scenario and be prepare for it.

The normal advised I gave are as follows:

Ingat ingatkan anak tu bila menunggang moto tu.........

1. UTAMAKAN KESELAMATAN
2. Sape betul salah dah tak relevan... kena pandai2 jaga diri. Yang bawa moto akhirnya yang menerima padah dari kebodohan pemandu kenderaan yang lebih berat
3. Sentiasa FOCUS sepenuhnya ( pada speed moto tak de masa nak khayal) Jaga kenderaan/lori yg berhenti di tepi jalan
4. Prepare for the worse scenario... andaikan pemandu lain akan tukar lane tanpa signal, keluar simpang tak pandang kiri kanan, orang depan akan brek mengejut…
5. Pakai pakaian yang tarik perhatian orang (cerah) … jangan pakai selipar atau kasut yang ada tali panjang yang mungkin tersangkut
6. Pakai topi keledar dengan betul dan all the time
7. Pantau keadaan moto… terutama tayar, brek, lampu brek
8. Selain moto faktor lain yang perlu diberi perhatian… permukaan jalan (lubang,pasir, minyak) dan pemandu (orang terlalu tua, orang terlalu muda, perempuan)
9. Kena SERIUS pasal teknik…. belajar dan belajar ( seperti pusing handle moto ke kiri bila hendak ke kanan – counter steering)
10.Pastikan ada lesen & cukai jalan (penunggang biasa diganggu oleh pihak berkuasa)
11.Kurangkan guna brek dalam keadaan kecermasan… lebihkan kawalan arah dan mengelak dari tekan brek
12.Kalau dah kurang dan akan hilang kawalan dan nak jatuh juga… elak jatuh di kawasan laluan kenderaan lain, langgar pokok dan tiang
13.kalau ride bersama rakan arakan, tidak perlu ikut kelajuan dan gaya mereka, ikut pada tahap kebolehan dan pengalaman sendiri. Dalam kumpulan ada yang telah menunggang 10 tahun dan ada yang baru dapat moto.
14.Baca Bismillah selawat dan doa menaiki kenderaan.

DoYouKnowTheWay@NilaiImpian

Syaza@20

1. Time sure fly fast… it was like yesterday -16 February 1989- that we thought was going to be the second cesarean birth for Zan, after Syazwan’s arrival in 1985. However, the scheduled operation was delay because the doctor was needed to carry out an unplanned emergency operation. So I went for a quick lunch… by the time I came back Syaza was delivered - without the operation. I was later told that a nurse came over to Zan’s bed and successfully coach her on the breathing and pushing technique. It was the greatest feeling and we were so thankful that we got a pair… a boy and a girl… Alhamdulillah. We brought home the baby girl from Roopi Clinic to Taman Permata… and spend our time bringing up Syaza from 1989 until 2009 in this neighborhood… kindergarten, religious school, Quran class, tuition class, primary school, secondary school and INTI University College. After 20 years…. we move to Nilai Impian. And in the middle of 2009 she be flying off to USA to further her study. That would be difficult for us all, as we have always being together.
2. She practically grew up right in front of us, from crying, crawling, walking, swimming, running, skating, cycling, singing, talking, discussing, debating, arguing, driving, photographing, guitaring… Syaza have done extremely well in almost everything she does. I miss all those time when we hugged, she sat on my lap, climbed on my back, attend concerts, cycling, swimmed to the bottom of the swimming pool, played, teased, talked, cycled.... it make me sad just thinking of those time that goes too fast? But one of the saddest moment was when she was left behind for the 2007 Haj even though she was chosen... I wept & prayed throughout the Haj season everything I thought of Syaza being left behind - but God knows best.. takdir.
3. She once had a birthday gathering with friends at our “back yard” in Taman Permata when she was 11 years old. And last night after 10 years she invited her new friends to her birthday gathering at our “back yard” in Nilai.. My prayer will always be for her continuous success in life… in everything she does - dunia dan akhirat. And pray she would always be… a humble self, respect others and be thankful to GOD for all the blessing.
   

HAPPY -20- BIRTHDAY Aja … love you always.
Take care and strive for the best always.

Never forget we are Malay second Muslim first. Wassalam..