MENYAMBUT HARI RAYA AIDILADHA 2009 = SUNYI. Raya di rumah Mak di Jalan Kent Satu KL amat terasa sunyi.... Ayah dan Abang telah meninggalkan kita buat selama nya... tetapi akan tetap di ingatan, di hati dan di doa buat selama nya. Kak Bedah dan famili berada di Dublin melawat Halim, Kak Wok dan famili di Qatar melawat Zaireen, Hisham dan famili di Greece melawat lawat dan Syaza dan Rassyid di Washington melawat Uncle Robert De Silva. This AidilAdha -No photo session... just a visit to Pusara Ayah and play host to Abang Khair, Kak Min and kids. Really made you think and feel that things have really change... so berkorban before it's too late. InsyaAllah we'll be blessed always.
To Hisham selamat menyambut AidilAdha, Ulangtahun Kelahiran dan Perkahwinan
A daughter is forever… No matter how old she is, in your heart she’ll always be that little girl full of imagination, dreams and fantastic potential – the one who captured your heart the day she came into your life…
Now she’s married with a husband who will take over the role and responsibility that the parents have being doing throughout her life…??? It’s really not that easy to let go of the r&r, especially since both of them are young. Hope they will start moving into the real world with open mind and guidance from Allah. I will always pray for their everlasting happiness. Hope they will always keep their patience, line of frank communication open at all time especially during “bad” moment, and always remember nothing and nobody’s perfect… except Allah.
Syaza and Rassyid will be flying off to Pittsburg USA to pursue their knowledge in Political Science this August. It will not be easy for me - as I’m not the goodbye type of person. She have being with us all this 20 years. It will be hard… just like the time when Syazwan was to be enrolled into MRSM in Bersia, Perlis. The night before must be my saddest night… and I could hardly sleep, spending most of the time in the hotel bathroom.... SHE"S LEAVING HOME!
Arrangement for my daughter’s wedding reception will be initiated soon. InsyaAllah it will be held next July at Nilai Impian during the summer break. Hope it will be as beautiful and successful as the one for Syazwan and Syazwani.
Please know and remember that it is with the greatest joy that I am your guardian and protector. Please know and remember that I will always strive to fulfill these roles with honor, trust and respect for your thoughts, feelings and individuality. What matters most in life are the people you love and you will be one of the people in my life whom I love the most. You are the essence of joy and the true meaning of life. You are the part of me that I’m most proud of because you’re you You are the rare treasured gift. You are a dream with all its hope and promise. You are love, endless and pure. You are my beautiful daughter. Please know and remember this always.
Question:There is a widespread custom of a young woman or her father refusing those who propose to her until she has completed her high school or university education, or so that she may study for a number of years. What is the ruling on that? Answer:My advice to all young men and women is to marry without delay and to hasten to it, if conditions permit, as the Prophet sallallaahu alayhi was salaam said: ‘O you young men! Those among you who have the means and the ability should marry, because it restrains the eyes (from evil glances) and preserves the private parts (from immorality). And whoever is unable to do so, should fast because it is a protection for him.’ (Al-Bukhari no. 5066 and Muslim no. 1400) And he sallallaahu alayhi was salaam said: ‘If one whose religion and character pleases you proposes to you, then marry (your daughter to) him. If you do not do so, it will be a cause of trial in the land and great corruption.’ (At-Tirmithi no. 1084)
Exactly a week after celebrating my 51st birthday, Friday 3 July 2009 my beloved Ayah, Haji Ahmad Lebai Salleh pass away at the age of 84. Was with him from 8am right up to his his very last moment 2.45pm at 17 Jalan Kent 1, Kuala Lumpur. We were all around him except for our youngest brother who is working in the Kingdom of Saudi Arabia. Ayah was not responding the whole day due to high fewer, right up to around 2.40pm when his mouth and tounge start moving and was seen to be trying to say something. I reminded him to mengucap’ that there is no God but ALLAH continuously and I heard at the very last breath he manage to say Allah and immediately goes to “sleep”. My sister Dr Zubaidah confirmed that he is no more with us. He had “return”. As he always wanted to “balik” for the past months. That last moment was quite “gentle”. With a calm face he left us all. He was then buried at Tanah Perkuburan Dato Keramat. May Allah bless his soul and place him in Jannah. My youngest brother Hisham arrived after the burial as he was delayed at Bahrain Airport for 3 hours. We now left with our beloved Mak. Pray that she’ll be bless with good health always and will be with us for a long time to come. I’m so thankful to God for giving the nikmah and rahmah to be able to be with my parents rights past my 50s years birthday. Al Fatihah.
After a year of planning and executing the various stages of implementation… . we finally reach the climax.I could say it wasa success. The whole majlis perkahwinan at our humble home went on smoothly… except for some problem at the PLUS highway, causing our guests to be slightly late. As I said during the wedding speech, it have being a unique, interesting, exciting and tiring experience.Zan take care of putting everything in place while I take care of the design and financial aspect.
Involving logistic such as location, programme, invitation card, theme, dress, tents, tables chairs, foods, songs, sound system, master of ceremony, presentation, photography, videography, stage décor, room décor,gifts, parking, accommodation, distribution of duties,duty list, guest lists….. on and on.
Guests include siblings, relatives, friends, school mates, college mates, university mates, colleagues, neighbors and … new family members, that is thein-laws. It was sort of a reunion for us all.
After the dust has settle down it was satisfying to look back at all the decisions made - rightly or wrongly.How things turn out.Strengths and weaknesses, lessons learn, money spend….
As parents what matter most is the blessing of the couple as husband and wifeand we pray for their everlasting happiness in their journey through life … always and forever together.
Now moving on to the next-MAJLIS.
Majlis Pernikahan Syaza & Rassyid on the 19 July 2009 insyaAllah
Approval of Parents from both side formalised on the 3rd May 2009.JPA approved on the 13th June 2009 and finally approval from Religious Department on th18th June 2009.
So, once Zan and Syaza come back from performing the Umrah, we will start the planning stage all over again….
HADITH
Sebenarnya apakah ucapan yang paling baik untuk mempelai-mempelai yang baru mendirikan rumahtangga? Di dalam sebuah hadith, telah diriwayatkan bahawa Aqil Ibnu Ali Abi Talib r.a. telah menikahi seorang wanita dari kalangan Bani Jusham. Lalu orang ramai datang dan berkata, “Semoga berbahagia dan ramai anak.” Mendengar yang demikian Aqil berkata, “Janganlah kamu mengatakan demikian, kerana sesungguhnya Rasulullah s.a.w. telah melarang yang demikian.”
Mereka lalu bertanya, “Jika demikian, apakah yang patut kami katakan wahai Abu Yazid?”
Aqil menjawab, “Katakan (Semoga Allah memberkati kamu dan melimpahkan berkat kepada kamu). Begitulah yang diperintahkan kepada kita”.[1] Di dalam sebuah hadith riwayat Imam Bukhari, diceritakan Rasullulah s.a.w. ternampak kesan Sufrah (sejenis wangian berwarna kuning) di baju Abdul Rahman Bin Auf r.a. lalu beliau bertanya, “Apakah ini?” Abdul Rahman r.a. menjawab, “saya telah mengahwini seorang wanita dan telah membayar mas kahwin seberat sebiji kurma.” Rasulullah s.a.w. bersabda, “ (semoga kamu diberkati). Adakan walimah walaupun dengan seekor kibash”[2] Menurut Abu Hurairah r.a. apabila mendoakan seseorang yang baru berkahwin, Rasulullah s.a.w. akan berkata,
“(Semoga Allah memberkati kamu dan melimpahkan berkat kepada kamu dan menghimpunkan kedua kamu di dalam kebaikkan.)”
[3] Menurut Imam Nawawi di dalam Al-Azkar adalah disunatkan kita mengucapkan seperti ucapan-ucapan Rasulullah s.a.w. di atas. Menurut beliau lagi, adalah makruh kita mengucapkan “Semoga berbahagia dan banyak anak.”[4] Mana tidaknya, kehidupan pasangan yang diberkatiNya sudah tentu gembira dan bahagia. Sedangkan kehidupan pasangan yang gembira dan bahagia, belum tentu mendapat keberkatanNya.
· Last Ramadan my father@Ayah all of a sudden start losing his appetite and weight… and definitely beginning to start getting weaker by the days. The development was quite worrisome so I suggested to my sister that we better get him to do a thorough check-up at the hospital to determine the reason for the deterioration
· We took him to Selayang Hospital for preliminary check up and through the blood and urine test carried out…. Everything seem to be okay. A week later, during follow up x-ray test appointment… it was accidentally discover that the previous blood test result was actually not so good after all. The doctor suspected that this was due to the kidney failure to function fully.
· Thorough follow-up test was done to ascertain the suspicion and was sadly confirmed. Doctor stress dialysis was the only treatment for kidney failure. So the options was laid on the table. hemodialysis… peritoneal dialysis…. at the hospital… at home…. every 6 hours… once daily… process and procedure….
· So decisions was collectively made and now going through the process and always with prayer that Ayah will be well and healthy again, as a 83 years old man insyaAllah .
· We decided to go for the peritoneal dialysis…. peritoneal dialysis (PD), you have some choices in treating advanced and permanent kidney failure. Since the 1980s, when PD first became a practical and widespread treatment for kidney failure, much has been learned about how to make PD more effective and minimize side effects. Since you don’t have to schedule dialysis sessions at the hospital, it gives you more control. You can give yourself treatments at home, at work, or on trips. But this independence makes it especially important that you work closely with your health care team: your nephrologist, dialysis nurse, dialysis technician, dietitian, and of course … the most important members of your health care team are Mum@Mak and family members. By learning about your treatment, you can work with your health care team to give yourself the best possible results.
Yesterday, 21 October 2008 my Aunt Zainab bt Salleh/Mak Nab, younger sister to my Ayah/father pass away at the age of 78. Manage to ziarah Mak Nab last Raya Aidilfitri at her home in Ipoh. She was then awake and aware. Buried at Tanah Perkuburan Jalan Kuala Kangsar next to her husband, Wak Aji who pass away 16 years ago. Ayah didn’t manage to attend the funeral as he was not feeling to good lately. Alhamdulillah Thanks to Almighty Allah for giving my parents the health and are still around and able to share their love with us, children, grand children and great grand children. Pray for their health always. AMIN AL FATIHAH FOR MAK NAB... MY FATHER'S YOUNGER SISTER Post-Burial Directly after the funeral ceremony has taken place, Muslims believe that two angels come down from heaven to interrogate the deceased. They question the dead to see if they have lived a good life, as well as see how much the deceased knows about God and the Prophet. Because of this, those who are present at the moment pray to help the deceased in their interrogations.
After someone's death, it is customary to only remember the deceased in a positive light, and to say only good things about the person. Muslims believe that the dead can hear the words of the living, so when visitors come to the grave, it is proper to greet the deceased. They also pray for the deceased and for the forgiveness of their sins.
Excited…welcoming our first child 19 July 1985> The world are busy with Live Aids concerts> Not coming out voluntarily> Tried forcing out> Doctor “Sorry we've try our best”> Finally a “door” need to be open that Friday afternoon> Together ever since, from sesame street@tv, roti canai@mamak to tawaf@kaabah> Partner at the mall every time we "split up"> Consider a friend and a son, sharing topics from computer,religions, politic> Have being a good and trouble free son> Saddest day/night sending off to MRSM> Video games a passion since “birth”> Biggest headache PC hard disk crashed for the final project, missing the Thailand Tour> Move forward into new experience, career, marriage, fatherhood>
HAPPY 23 BIRTHDAY Always set high target> work hard> pray hard and be thankful for all the nikmat and rahmat
In the Name of Allah, Most Beneficient Most Merciful
Where do we start? Do we know our family trees or family history.
Genealogyis the study and tracing of family lineages and history. It is a complex process that uses historical records and sometimes genetic analysis to demonstrate kinship. Reliable conclusions are based on the quality of sources, ideally original records, the information within those sources, ideally primary or firsthand information, and the evidence that can be drawn, directly or indirectly, from that information.But getting the information is difficult as not many keep them.So let start with what we have.
Relative@priority
Sadqa (alms, charity) given to a poor man is just Sadqa, but when given to a relative it serves a double purpose, being both Sadqa and a connecting link. (Ahmad, Tirmidhi, Nasai, Ibn Majah, Darimi) Sayings of Muhammad. by Prof. Ghazi Ahmad.
To Hisham selamat menyambut AidilAdha, Ulangtahun Kelahiran dan Perkahwinan
Post-Burial
